Turning a friend into boy/gal friend

Its something which happens a lot with a individual. Maybe some people say its childish but its the fact that almost every girl/boy finds him/her self in this situation sooner or later: There is guy/gal you've been friends with for months, and you have developed a huge crush on him. You get along great, and you spend a lot of time together. Sometimes you think he's/she's into you; his/her teasing seems a little flirtatious, and he/she texts you a lot. You are interested in finding out if you can take the relationship beyond friendship, but how do you escape Friend Zone?

There are a lot of reasons why this might be awkward. You have probably listened to some of his relationship problems, and shared some of yours. You may have told him/her things that you wouldn't tell someone you had just started dating. There are some ways in which you may have accidentally made him/her think that you just want to be friends.

On the one hand, this is fantastic! He/she already knows you, and knows a lot of the weird stuff that it would usually take you a long time to share with a boy/gal friend. If this works, it could work really, really well. Here are a few ways you might start hinting that you want to be more than friends:

Be flirtatious. You already have the playful teasing thing going. Be a little more coy. Draw him/her in and make him/her think. You will be surprised how much you can communicate with your eyes.

Be yourself. As much as you want to make this happen, don't do anything that is too out of character for you. You want him/her to like you, not some person that you invent to try and win him/her.

Touch him/her a little more. This does not mean that you should hang all over him/her. But try touching his/her arm now and then, or holding on for a few extra seconds before pulling out of a hug. You can gauge his/her reaction, and it may tell you what your chances are.

Just ask him! This is the scariest of all the options, because you are making yourself vulnerable. But if his/her answer is no, this will save you a lot of time and torture. And if his/her answer is yes, then you'll know right away!

Not every couple can escape Friend Zone, but lots of them do. Don't be afraid to try! If this one doesn't work, then try again with another person.


But don't try any of the above just for the purpose of time-pass, because it hurts a lot, when you break someone's heart. Its just like breaking a glass, when you break it your hand also bleeds.


With Love
Appu